The other day, I got into a heated argument with your stereotypical, holier-than-thou Christian woman (not that I have anything against Christians- I definitely do not- but this is the type of person that gives Christians a bad name). In a post she wrote, tagged under “equality”, she argued that gender roles are not only beneficial to everybody, but part of nature and should be followed. Now, I wasn’t looking for a fight my any means, but I couldn’t help myself- I commented in the opposing, with the thought to bring her down a peg or two in her self-thought righteousness. It was truly frustrating, and incredibly disappointing to see someone so unable to open their minds to see viewpoints beyond their own.
I cannot say I’m proud of this; in hindsight, I quite regretted it. Nothing good came of it, I thought. All that did was instill and nourish negativity.
That’s what I thought, anyway, until I started getting numerous notifications of people liking my comments. A new thought occurred to me then: Had this argument actually done some good? Had I brightened someone’s day by arguing their side? Maybe, just maybe, some good had come of this negative exchange after all.
When people started liking my comments, it made me feel like a success- like the argument had not been in vain.
But this leaves us with the question: was that the right thing to do? Would arguing my point on issues do more harm then good? Should we purposefully get into arguments to do good, or would that just alienate people, make them even more unwilling to open their minds to other possibilities?
On this, I feel I must take into account the possible outcomes and effects on all involved parties- myself, the one I argue with, and those silent spectators.
But is this really productive? Will it actually change anything?
I don’t know. I really don’t.
Let me know what you think in the comments.